Learn To Love Yourself With This Breathing Meditation
If you had told me that I would learn to love myself by breathing I would have laughed. Or maybe I would have rolled my eyes. I guess it depends what version of myself you’d be talking to. I also probably would have remarked that I do love myself. And I would have been lying. To you and to myself.
Most of us live in one of two camps: we know we don’t love ourselves or we think we love ourselves. There are some exceptions, of course—those that have found a way to resist comparing themselves to others, to stay connected to the divine source within them, and to give themselves love every single day. But if you're anything like me you've found yourself struggling in this area.
So many of us are really good at giving to others, and we don’t have a clue how to give ourselves what we really need. What we really need is to show ourselves love and compassion. We need to stop trying to be who or what we think we should be. We need to learn to surrender to the beautiful soul within ourselves that is already unique and everything we need to be. We need to let that part shine.
Most of us find ourselves struggling to become a better version of ourselves when the beauty of who we are is just buried underneath all that effort. What we really need is to stop trying to control our growth. We need to trust our intuition to guide us forward.
I discovered this breathing meditation to be the tool for learning to love yourself.
This Breathwork practice allowed me to let go of the false beliefs I was holding onto, to open my heart, and to see and accept the beauty of who I truly am. It helped me move from living in my head (which was keeping me stuck and separate from others) to a deeper connection to the wisdom in my body. Through this breathing meditation my heart has expanded, and I know I’m vibrating at a different frequency because my life and my relationship to it has dramatically shifted.
I didn't know I didn't love myself until I began to use Breathwork. The breath opened up parts of me I was afraid of and made me feel safe to be with the pain. It allowed me to purge stuck energy and deep pain stored in my body for my lifetime. Each session left me feeling light, clear, and more free.
Breathwork changed my life, and it's changed the lives of so many people I've been honored to know and work with.
If you want to learn to love yourself begin working with this breathing meditation:
- How To Breathe
This is a specific two-part breath that moves stuck emotion from the lower chakras into the heart. You’re going to be breathing in and out of the mouth which connects you more deeply to your body. Breathe the first inhale into your low belly and then take in a second inhale into your heart. Exhale the entire breath through the mouth completely. Let the breath fall out of the body. Do not push it out. You should be able to visibly see your belly and chest expand as you breathe.
- A Short Practice
- Get in a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.
- Lay somewhere comfortable on your back.
- Put on a playlist with three of your favorite songs. Try to let the first two songs be more up beat and the last soothing. Anything that suits your taste. Or you can use one of my Breathwork playlists.
- Close your eyes (use an eye mask if you have one) and breathe as per the instructions above to the first two songs. This might feel like work, but just stick with it and focus on the breath. Feel your belly and chest rise. Feel the breath move in and out of the body.
- Pay attention to what your body is experiencing. After a few minutes you should feel your body tingling. That’s your energy moving. Let it do its thing. This work is about letting go. The only thing you have to do is breathe. If you feel tightness or tension place your awareness there and breathe into it. Be willing to let go.
- Once the third song begins release the breath and begin to breathe in and out of the nose. Let your body vibrate here for as long as you like.
- What To Expect
Many people experience the release of deep emotion. You may feel emotional pain. You may cry. You may feel deep love and gratitude. You might have visions of a loved one or someone who has passed on. Each person's experience varies and each time it's a little different. You will most likely feel energy moving through your body, most often described as electricity or tingly sensations. You might also feel cramping in the hands and/or mouth which will go away when you're done breathing.
This is an active breathing meditation. For most people it doesn't feel relaxing or easy until it's over. This is a healing tool, and to heal we need to walk through the pain and discomfort. That being said, this is more of a gentle Breathwork technique. You are welcome to go at your own pace. If at any time you would like to reduce the flow of energy or come out of the session completely simply begin breathing through the nose gently. You can also open your eyes.
It can be difficult for some people to go deep without someone guiding them through it. I recommend doing 10-15 minute sessions on your own daily, 35 minute guided sessions weekly, and then work with a practitioner like myself as needed for deeper healing working.
I do private healing sessions as well as group workshops. I work with people all over the world. You can learn more about what I'm currently offering here.
Disclaimer: Breathwork is not a substitute for medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. The information on these pages is offered as a tool for spiritual and personal growth and not as medical or psychotherapeutic advice. I make no claims to heal medical or psychological conditions; any healing subsequent to advanced breathwork practice is a result of self-healing. Anyone who uses this technique does so at their own risk.