Learn To Love Yourself With This Breathing Meditation
If you had told me that I would learn to love myself by breathing I would have laughed—or maybe I would have rolled my eyes, I guess it depends what version of myself you’d be talking to. I also probably would have defensively retorted that I do love myself, and I would have been lying—to you and to myself.
If you're anything like I was, you might be struggling to understand how to love yourself.
For the healers, mamas, and givers of the world, it can be uncomfortable slowing down enough to address our own needs and desires when we're habituated to be of service. The sensitive introverts and awkward intellectuals can often use the mind and labels to hide behind.
For all of us, we have our ways of hiding from our own truth. We hide because it's painful, but we also hide because we don't hear enough stories of people like us actually changing in a way that feels relatable to us.
Once something wasn't working so well anymore I moved onto the next until one day, when I was 28 years old, I admitted that I didn't like myself.
Not only didn't I like myself, but I was also a pretty miserable person putting on an act that I was happy. I thought I was supposed to be happy and hadn't nothing much to complain about, so why wasn't I? .
We are a culture of humans living in our heads and disconnected from our wisdom. In recent years we've become so consumed with happiness that we've lost connection to meaning. We prefer fleeting dopamine hits over deep healing. We don't want to feel uncomfortable, let alone process the deep emotional pain hidden in every cell of our beings.
I didn't want to feel my pain either. I hid from it for as long as I could until it all started spilling out all over the place for everyone to see.
You might feel the same way I did. You might want more for your life. You might be grief-stricken, completely lost in life, depressed and disillusioned. We all get here through different paths, but we all want the same things.
This Breathwork Meditation is the pathway into self-love.
Breathwork is the simple and profound tool that changed my life. It allowed me to let go of my mind enough to see the false beliefs I was holding onto (anyone else constantly tell themselves how shitty they're always doing?). It connected me to my energy, allowed me to hear my soul, and gave me a direct channel to spirit.
Breathwork is a tool that will change your life if you allow it to. It can show you the truth about who you are. It can open your heart to the beauty already living inside you. Through Breathwork sustainable, deep transformation is possible.
Breathwork changed my life, and it's changed the lives of so many people I've been honored to know and work with.
If you want to learn to love yourself, begin working with this breathing meditation:
For those who are hearing impaired or want to read instructions instead of using the video above:
How To Breathe
This is a specific two-part inhale that moves stuck emotion from the lower chakras into the heart. You’re going to be breathing in and out of the mouth which connects you more deeply to your body.
Breathe the first inhale into your low belly and then take in a second inhale into your heart. Exhale the entire breath through the mouth completely. Let the breath fall out of the body. You don't need to push it out.
A Short Practice
Get in a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.
Lay somewhere comfortable on your back.
Put on a playlist with three of your favorite songs. Or you can use one of my Breathwork playlists or bypass this step if you are hearing impaired.
Close your eyes (you can use an eye mask if you have one) and breathe as per the instructions above to the first two songs. This might feel like work, but just stick with it and focus on the breath. Feel your belly and chest rise. Feel the breath move in and out of the body.
Pay attention to what your body is experiencing. After a few minutes you might feel your body tingling. That’s your energy moving.
If you feel tightness or tension place your awareness there and breathe into it. Be willing to let go.
Once the third song begins release the breath and begin to breathe in and out of the nose. Let your body vibrate here for as long as you like.
What To Expect
Many people experience the release of deep emotion, especially during longer sessions. You may feel emotional pain. You may cry. You may feel deep love and gratitude. You might have visions of a loved one or someone who has passed on.
Each person's experience varies and each time it's a little different. You will most likely feel energy moving through your body, most often described as electricity or tingly sensations. You might also feel cramping in the hands and/or mouth which will go away when you're done breathing.
This is an active breathing meditation. For many people just beginning it doesn't feel relaxing or easy until it's over. This is a healing tool, and to heal we need to walk through the pain and discomfort.
You are welcome to go at your own pace. If at any time you would like to reduce the flow of energy or come out of the session completely simply begin breathing through the nose gently, and you can also open your eyes.
GETTING STARTED WITH BREATHWORK
The kit I created to help you begin your Breathwork practice. It includes 3 guided Breathwork meditations, an ebook about how Breathwork heals, an FAQ, and a series of printables for a 30-day Breathwork challenge.