Be Vulnerable, Just For Today
One of the most common comments I get from people is that they appreciate my vulnerability and that they wish they could be as vulnerable as I am one day. One day. Not today. A day other than this day.
And they say that because it feels like a really big leap. I know because it used to be me. I used to hide behind any excuse not to show people who I really was. Being even a little bit open felt too scary. I felt too exposed, too capable of being damaged.
Through a radical life shift I learned to love and accept myself as I am. In that shift I learned that I couldn’t really be hurt, not at deepest part of myself. I also learned that the part of me that could get hurt, my humanness, was worth exploring fully. I decided that it was more important for my soul to be fulfilled than it was for me to hide in fear of pain.
I was listening to the podcast, Strangers, and they were speaking about how people go to therapists but don't dare reveal their deepest secrets to them. We're even too ashamed to share our humanness with the people we pay to help us, not to mention we have life partners who we fear exposing our true selves to.
For myself, I slowly started testing the water. I noticed when I wanted to hide and chose to show myself instead. It's really like anything in life: once you do it you realize it wasn't that difficult to do to begin with or at least it's not as scary.
In doing so I have come to care less and less what other people think about me. In fact, I feel somewhat obligated to be authentic, to share the depths of my human experience, because I think we hide too much. I think we’re ashamed of things that are very human, things that we all share. I think we lie too often about our feelings. I think we try too much to be someone other than ourselves.
In my Reiki training I learned 5 principals:
- Just for today, I will not be angry.
- Just for today, I will not worry.
- Just for today, I will be grateful.
- Just for today, I will do my work honestly.
- Just for today, I will be kind to every living thing.
I love the focus of, “Just for today…” When people say, “One day I want to be vulnerable...” they are really saying that it feels too big of a leap to be that vulnerable right now. But what if you were vulnerable just for today?
So this is my challenge for you: Just for today, be vulnerable.
Just for today, tell someone how you really feel.
Just for today, share something you’ve never shared.
Just for today, maintain eye contact with a stranger.
Just for today, compliment someone you wouldn't normally.
Just for today, take a risk.
Just for today, show a part of yourself you’ve been hiding from the world.
Pick one thing. Pick all the things. Do what you want, but be vulnerable at least once today.
I would love to hear what you did and how you felt. Email me.
Happy risk taking!