What It Really Means to Live Your Life to the Fullest
I’m not the woman who has to hit every rollercoaster at the theme park. I didn’t go to Yosemite and feel unfulfilled when I didn’t make it to every single site. In fact, I plan to just do what I feel like doing in the moment when I’m exploring. I don’t allow my mind to tell me stories about what I should have done. I enjoy what I’m doing in the moment, listen to my energy, and stop when I need to stop.
To live a full life does not mean you went to every party, was loved by all, and died exhausted, but smiling. There is no one-size-fits-all solution for living a full life, just as there’s no regimen that creates a healthy life for everyone. We have varying dispositions, different backgrounds, bodies, and desires for our lives. What I think is most important is learning to understand yourself. What affects your energy? Do you need alone time to recharge? Are you constantly out with people because you’re avoiding yourself? Are you always saying no and could use a little yes-ing? Are you always saying yes and could using a little no-ing?
Living a full life, to me, means that I’m really there for as many moments as possible, that I’m not checked out because I’m burnt out, that I’m not doing things that I think I should do or whizzing through life checking off all of the to-dos. When I’m standing at Glacier Point I want to really be there. I want to let it soak in and attempt to see the majestic beauty that can be difficult to find amongst a clamoring crowd with selfie-sticks. I want to try to stand there in that moment and take in that beauty and really feel myself there, even if that means I don’t get to make it to the waterfalls or the lake or the beautiful meadow everyone says I have to see.
To me, living a full life means that I’m immersed in the human experience.
It means that I don’t repress my emotions because I’m scared of the pain. It means that I let go of the concern of being liked by others and focus more on me liking myself. It means that I give my mind space to see people differently, to see myself differently, and to give us all the benefit of the doubt. It means that I’m willing to say yes when I want to say no because I know that the yes will serve me. It means that I’m willing to say no when I feel obligated to say yes because I know that boundaries mean everything when it comes to living a healthy life. It means that I’m willing to put in hard work when I need to and to walk away when I need to, too. It means that my life may not be easy, but it’s worth it.
Most people come to this realization too late. They live their lives unconsciously or they live their lives waiting for something to change but they do nothing to change it. On their deathbeds they wish they had lived the lives their souls were calling for, they wish they had the courage to share their voices, and they wish they had allowed themselves to be happier. We can easily get to our deathbeds by running past all the sites and not really being there. We can stand in a crowd but never be heard. We can smile without really being happy. But we can also choose something different. In this moment right now we can give ourselves lives worth living.
I am always working on myself, always looking for the lessons I’m learning and the ways in which I can become a better version of myself. I do this with love in my heart and acceptance of who I am now.
It’s the tightrope walk between growth and self-acceptance, and it’s truly a magical process.
I am always delightfully surprised by what else I’m here to learn. Just yesterday I arrived back home in LA after a beautiful two day trip to the high desert. There have been little threads that I’ve been picking up on lately, most specifically this feeling that something is big is shifting within me. Last night, while rinsing the desert dust off my body, I felt a clear knowing that I need more interior exploration. I’ve been giving a lot of myself lately. I’m in the process of launching a couple courses and giving support to my incredible clients. I’m feeling so deeply fulfilled and rewarded in doing this work and being a support system for others, but to help balance myself out I need even more time and attention to focus inward.
For me, living the fullest life I can live means that I’m in balance. I have to be in balance in order to give myself to others. I have to look inward, then out, and then back in again. I have to allow myself to be in flow with the universe. Living a full life isn’t about making all the pit stops, taking the tourist photos, and sharing them on Instagram (although that’s fun!). It’s about being deeply imbedded in my life, being willing to be self-aware enough to see when I’m off track, and having the courage to course correct again and again.
It also means that I open myself up to support when it’s time. It’s been a while since I’ve worked one-on-one in a mentoring capacity with someone, and it’s something I’ve been feeling a yearning for. I recently began working with my friend and incredible Reiki practitioner, Cara Manuele. I’m looking for more guidance and support in my life right now because I know it’s going to help me step more fully into my own power. Anytime I’ve opened myself up to the support I’ve been guided to it’s helped me move through big life transitions. I can feel I’m brimming, a big shift is happening, and I know support during this time is going to help me step into my power more steadily.
I’m also stepping more deeply into my role as a support system for you. You may have noticed I’m engaging more intimately through my newsletter and encouraging you to respond directly to me. I also have a few open spots for one-on-one work if you’re in a place like I am right now. If you feel like things are moving for you, I highly recommend finding support. It might be me or it might be someone else who’s been on your radar. Take a moment to reflect on your life. Notice if you’ve been flip flopping, if you feel ungrounded, if you keep waiting for change to happen to you. Now imagine yourself being supported by someone while you step into your own power. Imagine your life transforming and you finally sharing your voice, healing your wounds, and accepting yourself.
Head over to the website of the person who feels like they would best support you right now (here’s information about working with me) and hear their messaging. See if it feels right. Any time I have allowed someone to mentor me, and I’ve earnestly let their guidance in, I’ve changed significantly. Give yourself permission to live a full life, to have someone support you as you walk through the fire, and to land on the other side a deeper, more expanded human being.